SEL
Professional Development

December 13, 2021

Welcome.

We appreciate you taking the time to work on your leadership and social/emotional skills. Here's a review of what we covered in our time together:

Module: Motivation

When you close your eyes, who are you supposed to be?

Step 1: It's not about ability, it's about BELIEF.

The FLEA Story

100 fleas in a jar.

They can all easily jump out. They have incredible ability to jump.
Scientists put a lid on the jar.
One flea jumps and hits the lid.
The rest of the fleas jump, but not all the way.
The one flea has clearly communicated his experience to the rest.

24 hours later, the scientists remove the lid.

7 days later the fleas are all still in the jar.

Why?

Step 2: Handling Rejection

Don't get defensive, get information.

Practice handling rejection. 

Get into a group of 3 and give each person a distinct role: rejector, coach and handler.

Follow the two steps and coach one another until the tactic becomes comfortable:

1. Acknowledge
    Use terms like "ok", "I hear you", "got it", "understood" to acknowledge that the rejection has     been heard and received.

2. Ask a question
    Immediately ask, without sarcasm, a question with the intent of acquiring information.
    Example:  "What could I do differently?"

Step 3: Styles of Motivation

3 types of engagement.

Style 1: Imitative

Key Info

This style is often motivated by keeping pace with someone else. Some existing model exists for what they want to do. They value security and the assurance of a proven model.

This is the most common style.

Focus

Find existing models that work. Make sure you are copying/imitating something that has substance.

They are by-the-book, so give them a book. They are most likely to follow a plan.

Watch Out

They can be disrupted easily by obstacles.

School creates and rewards this type most because they follow instructions and produce predictable outcomes.

Examples: Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, Magic Johnson

Style 2: Reactive

Key Info

This style is responsive to a change and need to be challenged. They are driven by competition and a desire to win.

Someone else has proved it works but they want to do it bigger, better or faster.

Focus

Learn the skills of innovation, how to improve on existing model and differentiation.

The love targeted, competitive goals and status rewards. They can be great fighters for issue-based work.

Watch Out

They can become overly competitive, short-sighted and leapfrogged.

If you are competing with what already exists, you may not see what’s coming next.

Examples: Serena and Venus Williams, Michael Jordan, Jeff Bezos

Style 3: Generative

Key Info

This style is rare. They seek to create something new. They are the risk-takers, the  entrepreneurial, the most future thinking, They value freedom above all else.

They are obsessed with new, different and valuable.

Focus

They must learn how to build relationships of trust. People around them must trust that they know what they're doing since there is no model. They must have remarkable faith in themselves and confidence in their abilities.

Watch Out

They can be eccentric and stubborn.
They have focused, possibly narrow, high-level skills. As a result, they can operate outside of normal social parameters, in their own world. 

Examples: Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, Jennifer Doudna and Emmanuelle Charpentier

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